Why giving our time to our kids is most crucial today more than ever

I am a stay at home mom today. I have got this designation about 3 months back when I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl. But I am not new to mother good. I had a first born baby girl whom we lost to a very rare illness when she was about 11 months old. She was just 3 weeks short of her first birthday. Now lot of people I know would stop reading further thinking that this is another grief story. Please give me benefit of doubt. I have never mourned for my loss in public. I always have a smile on my face, despite of not being able to forget our loss. I say our very clearly because it is only me and my spouse who know the sorrow of the loss. We have experienced most pathetic fate in a foreign country, at a very wrong time. It shattered our self worth, people blamed us with various tags, we were branded jealous and unlucky by out own kith and kin many times. People avoided us, for fear of bad luck many times.

Yet we both know what is parenthood well enough. Our loss made us realize how precious childhood is. Each day your baby has new needs and new achievements which are there for you as a parent to relish. There is no compensation good enough to make good for the missed moments of your child's growth. Lot of times I have seen only mothers being held responsible for bringing up a child and Dad being too busy at work making money to run the family. Sometimes both parents work and the child lives in a no man land. They feel lonely and crave for attention of parents. A child only knows his/her parents , only when parents actually play the role of parents. Otherwise from a very early age they become independent and do not trust others.

If we bring up a generation of non-believers and too independent kids we are bound to suffer.

We can only preach what we practice, especially in case of our kids. They mimic most of our acts. An alcoholic cannot bring up a child hoping that his child would be sober. They may in fact be sober, but they will definitely have some developmental struggle to stay perfectly sober in life. Today we hear so many mental and psychological disorders which never existed in the time of our parents. Why ? Just one simple question leads to many answers. First of all we never had so much money earlier so we had lot of time. Children grew up in loving care of parents, grand parents , aunts and uncles , cousins and distant relatives etc. There was an excellent support network for children those days. I am not talking about BC periods I am talking about 1990s.

We must now think seriously. 2012 is the beginning of an end according to Mayan prophecy. I feel it is true. This year shall bring lot of change in thought process of many people. But the most important thing to realize is how we must bring up our kids so that they stay healthy, focused, goal oriented yet loving people as they grow up. There is only one cure to the problems of the world. That is Love more and Hate less. This must happen in every home, every community and every country and every continent. Otherwise if not 2012, some year in 2xxx series may bring doom to our civilization. Our civilization again is human race not a man vs machine race.

People wake up to the call of the year 2012, the year of Renaissance, it is not just the responsibility of the billionaires, it is responsibility of everyone to think for the future of the world. But as a woman from middle class I shall say only the middle class can play the crucial role in bringing about THE CHANGE.

The change according to my definition:

1. Recycle as if your life is at stake.

2. Live each day, making a small contribution to the common good

3. Know and respect your neighbors.

4. Learn and respect your religion

5. Choose humanity before religion always.

6. Love and Respect your self at all times.

7. Give your best time to your kids and family

8. Enjoy every moment as you live.

9.Cherish the glory of Mother Earth.

10. Remember that purpose of religion is to know God.