It is my nature to look for company in whatever I do. May be it is my family, which was a close knit. I had a sister and brother and we were close. We shared our lives well into our twenties, and we did things together like most siblings do. When I started working in a different city my sister was there too, and we were friends too in many ways. Now since life sent us all three in different ways, I look for company always in whatever I do. This is my reasoning for it.
We all have so many things to work on in life. We have to work towards having a better life, career, more money, financial stability, a good home, happier family, our health............this is a never ending list. For somethings we find friends who are in similar situations, and that helps a lot. I always found someone along the way, who were more like me. I attribute whatever success I have got in life to the Good people who came along my path. But for the failures I do blame just myself :)
But as we grow older our lives are different. We have things to work on but do not have as much time to discuss and make a plan. Many insecurities crowd our mind and so do our many responsibilities. We may not find all the time in the world to find friends to work on our goals. But giving up is not the way for achievers. So I feel the way to go is to just make a plan and get to work on it.
I would like to be more organised, I would like to lose some weight, I would like to do more productive things, I would like talk less and work more.......even my personal list is as big as the general list of things which people want to do. But just as I look at this list, and my own motivation to do something towards improving myself, I see that my motivation is very low. I question myself and only reason I see is that I cannot do things alone. I need someone and anyone being present motivates me.
But today I made a plan, which is just for me. I know myself much better than anyone else in the world. I am unbiased about me, and that is the best thing. If I wish to do something doing it alone is not such a bad idea. Just doing things, and getting results motivates people. This attitude is not being selfish. But it is an approach towards being more independent. Its good to have people around, but it is bad to be helpless without someone. So I have decided, time and tide wait for none, so I have to be focussed from now on.
Waiting for someone, or something to come along , a good luck or omen is just a chance factor. Tough as this may sound, I think as we start working towards our goals people will join us. I have never seen people following a person who has not been much of a success. I now never use the word loser as that word in itself is wrong. We can lose one thing, may be two but there is no general loser in the world. And if anyone tries to tell you the same, just ask those people to just get lost. But as we respect ourselves, have greater self esteem and pursue our dreams in a relentless manner we will definitely succeed one day. So there are no two ways about it. Either you want to do or don't want to do things. There is nothing in between, no hurdles as most of them can be excuses we give to calm our minds at war with what we are doing.
So all those who feel disheartened as you don't have someone along your path, don't worry. Just get started and as you go you will see many along the way. You may not know them but they are still there and that is all there is to it.
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